HOW TO BECOME – AND STAY – SEXUALLY PURE (1)(Bootcamp Purity Series)

I was asking the Lord what to write on this topic, and He asked, “How did YOU get to where you are are?” (Paraphrase)

So, here goes:


So, Jesus knocks on the door of your sexual life and asks, “Can I come in?”
And we say, “Yes, Lord…just one moment.”

Then we switch off the X-rated movie on our television sets – or change it to CBN.
We put off that raunchy music – or change it to praise and worship.
We clean up the browser history on our phones.
We push the porn magazines under the bed.
If we have a partner with us, we put them in a wardrobe and lock them up with a key.
We was our hands with scented soap and water…

…then we open the door and say, “Please, come in, Jesus.”

And He comes in – strictly keeping to the areas we have allowed Him access to.

No. Don’t do that. Open the door wide with your phone and television LOUDLY showing the sexual scenes and naked bodies. Open your magazines to your favourite pages. Open up your body to Him and say, “Jesus, come in.”

You see, you can never invite Jesus into a situation and it remains the same.

Before you were born, He knew you were going to be entangled in that sin. He knew exactly what you were going to be doing that very second…

…and He made grace available for your deliverance.

When you invite Him into a situation, He comes with the necessary grace and power for the situation.

Open up to him as literally as you can, then invite Him to come into your sexual life – with all its habits, addictions, filth. Ask Him to come and clean you up – ask Him to be Lord in that area your life.


(The lure of) Sexual sin can be so pleasurable that, somewhere in the recesses of your soul, you are unwilling to give it up.

I know. I’ve been there.

I remember years ago, I met someone and I knew – absolutely, positively – I was going to sin – or, at least, compromise – except God helped me. What made it even more difficult was that the other person had no reservations – and was more than willing. To make it triply difficult, we were in forced, constant, close proximity for that period.

I also knew that I could sin, ask God for mercy – and He would forgive me. Sounds familiar? One particular day, I was told to fast. I didn’t know how to fast, so I managed to fast till 12noon.

That night, I got up and went to an empty room and began to talk to God. I told him that I was going to sin. I told him in graphic, explict detail what I wanted to do. Of course, nothing shocks Him. He already knew what was in my head.

I told him I wanted to sin, and candidly, I wanted to so bad that I wasn’t willing to be convinced otherwise. I also knew He would forgive me if I went ahead sin – and later confessed.

I prayed honestly, “Lord, I am not willing. I want to sin. Please, make me willing.”

Then, I got up and went back to my room. I can’t go into that now (it’s rather lengthy – maybe in another post), but there was an unfolding of events and a change – a purging that was dramatic.

God brought me to a point where I don’t indulge in sexual immorality – not because it is a sin or has disastrous consequences – but simply because I don’t want to.

Two of the most powerful prayers in my life are “Lord, help me” and “Lord, make me willing.”

This is a prayer I pray constantly – and not just in the area of sexual sin. I’ve prayed it over the years and I’ve seen Him work in ways only He can – over and over again.


Sometimes, I imagine the presence of God as a blazing ball of brightly burning fire that, the closer you get to, the more impurities are burned away.

It’s hard – no, impossible – to spend time with God and remain the same.

The more you abide, the more you are purged.

The more time you spend with God and in the Word, the more things drop from you effortlessly.

It is not a struggle or working by your effort – it happens effortlessly the longer you stay there. Your desires are conformed to His desires, your thoughts to His thoughts. You begin to loathe what He loathes, and abhor what He abhors. You start to loves what He loves, and hate what He hates.


As you dwell in His presence and read the Word prayerfully, the Word does a cleansing work in your life.

I learnt the power of using the Word to combat immoral thoughts. There was a season in my life where my mind was so full of filth becase of some experiences I had been through. Take note, I was a Christian.

I would find myself thinking on these thoughts for long periods of time – until I read the verse that says,

‘Finally my brethren, whatsoever things are true…honest…just…pure…lovely…of good report…think on these things.’ (Philippians 4:8)

So, I memorized that verse and quoted it to myself anytime I had those thoughts – or inappropriate thoughts about anyone.

Initially, I would go long stretches on the thoughts, then remember, “Deborah, quote that verse!” I would come to myself, then quote it repeatedly until the thoughts disapperaed.

After sometime, the thoughts began to get shorter and shorter. Then, it got to a point where, immediately they came, the Word came up and elimininated them.

But a stranger thing soon began to happen:

Before they came, the Word came up. I don’t know how that is possible, but when the Word came up suddenly, I just knew the thoughts had been on their way.

Now I realise that the Word is more than powerful letters. The Word is a Person – Jesus. And He knew the thoughts were coming before they came.

After sometime, they ceased completely.

The Bible says, “How shall a young man/woman cleanse his/her ways? By taking heed unto the Word” (Psalms 119:9)

“Your Word have I hid in my heart, that I might not sin against you.” (Psalms 119:11)

In this last season, with the desperate and determined bombardment of the enemy, you cannot stay pure without spending time in God’s presence, and in the Word.

You cannot.

(…to be continued…)


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