At one time in my life, when I was much younger, I believed that every man indulged in pornography to some extent. I also believed that it was normal for men to cheat – it was just in their make-up.

Mind you, I was a Bible-believing, water-baptised, tongue-talking, demon-chasing Christian – but I had bought into a demonic cultural and societal narrative that had been carefully orchestrated by Satan himself.

In hindsight, I have no idea why or how I formed that opinion. It was, most probably, because it was very common around me – especially when I left home.

Then one day, I was speaking with a male Christian friend, and I casually mentioned that every man watches pornography to an extent.

I will never, ever, ever, forget the look of revulsion and disgust on his face as he immediately drew back and snapped violently, “No! Not every man looks at pornography!”

It was more than the words. It was his total furious repugnance to the idea that struck me – and that began to recalibrate my mind back to the way God intended it to be:

The Mind Of Christ.

You see, the devil is the master of deception, and when it concerns righteousness and unrighteousness, his lies are usually extreme:

Everyone Is Doing It or No One Is Doing It.

In other words, Sin is normal. Righteousness is abnormal.

He so pushes this narrative, that even Christians buy into the lie – forgetting the spiritual principle that “Whatever You Believe, Becomes Your Truth.”

I remember, in a former church, we were having a discussion on relationships in the department I served in. The discussion became heated – in a friendly manner – when a certain member retorted, “Oh, please! It’s a lie that people wait until marriage to have sex. Let’s stop pretending! We all know there’s no virgin anymore!”

The whole room went silent. You could have heard a pin drop.

Do I blame her? No, because I had been there before.

Many beliefs we have bought into as “normal” are carefully orchestrated lies from the pit of hell:

-If you truly believe men are polygamous in nature, holiness becomes a struggle for you as a man. You secretly feel your lust for other women other than your wife is normal. After all, it’s a “Man-Thing.”

– As a young lady, if you truly believe everybody is having sex, you feel scared to say “No” when the young man pressurizes you for sex. You wouldn’t want to lose him because of your “prudish” behaviour, so you give in.

What You Believe Becomes Your Truth.

How do you recognize and overcome these big, fat lies?

(1) Spend Time With God And The Word.
One major reason many Christians fall prey to the enemy’s lies is because of little or no time with God and the Word. It is impossible to spend time with God and His Word – and not have the mind of Christ.

God and His Word expose darkness, and purify your desires. You no longer struggle to sin. You begin to think like He does – and the mind of Christ becomes a reality. Read more here:

(2) Surround Yourself With The Right People.
This is a huge one. If you constantly hang around adulterers, you will “understand” why adultery is ‘normal’. Same with any form of moral failure.
The wrong crowd normalizes sin.

If you hang around God’s righteous children long enough, you’ll became so child-like, so “naive”, that you wouldn’t understand how people can comfortably sin – and still call themselves Christians.
The right crowd normalizes holiness.

(3) Guard Your Gates.
The devil sells his lies particularly through the media (traditional and social), and many Christians believe them because they have constantly filled their minds with the drivel and filth of the enemy. Most times, they are not aware they have bought into the lie until it begins to play out in their lives.

Who or what do you constantly listen to? What do you constantly look at? You cannot fellowship with those who mock righteousness – and expect to remain holy. (Psalm 1:1-3)

Fiercely, ferociously guard your eye and ear gates. If you don’t, you will be influenced. You cannot remain neutral.


Not everyone is doing it – and no, you are not the only righteous one left.
Just like God told Elijah, there are still “…seven thousand uncompromising men left, who have not bowed their knees to Baal.”

You have great company.

(By the way, I stumbled on this young lady called Ezinne Zara on YouTube. Her video beautifully buttresses my post. If you can, get your teenagers, especially girls, to watch.)

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  1. Your posts are always so soothing to read. It’s so true that what we believe becomes our reality and truth and it is our responsibility to fill our hearts/minds with the right Truth(The real one from God’s word). Bless you sis.

    1. Debby Osa says:

      Thank you, sis❤️ – and Amen 🙏.

  2. Debby, this is a poignant message. This is something that needed to be addressed and I’m glad you did.

    1. Debby Osa says:

      Thank God – and thank you for reading 🙂

  3. Akalla says:

    This is deep Sis debby, a true Word based christian will know that in this world, we run a different economy, we are not of the same economy, we are in this world, we are not of this world. So one need not think as the world thinks. God help us in this deceitful world we are in!

    1. Debby Osa says:

      “We need not think as the world thinks.” Well said, Oga Seye – and Amen!

  4. Debby – very powerful. It is good to hear this from your perspective. I turned away from the Church at 16 (childhood trauma) and so worldly behavior was the norm. When I recommitted my life to Christ as I read and studied the Bible God gave me His lens. I am grateful for this because it helps me to see where Satan’s deceptions seep in. Controlling our gate – our input – is so important. As Christians we need all your insights here. Thank you!

    1. Debby Osa says:

      Wow. Thank you for sharing! That’s a powerful testimony.

  5. Lisa Blair says:

    This is a beautiful testimony of having a teachable heart, “That began to recalibrate my mind back to the way God intended it to be: The Mind of Christ.” Having His Word as our plumbline makes all the difference, Debby!

    1. Debby Osa says:

      Well put, Lisa! “His Word as our plumbline…”

  6. Michelle says:

    So true! This is an encouragement to not give in to the world perceptions, and to stay strong in how God calls us to live.

    1. Debby Osa says:

      Yes, it is. Thank you, Michelle.

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