This is a topic that hits too close to home for me.

I’ve lost spiritual pregnancies: some because I didn’t know what they were at that time, and others because I was too comfortable – or too distracted – to give them what they really needed.

You see, when you spend time with God – whether through worship, prayer, meditation, or listening to anointed ministrations – your spirit-man is open and receptive to receive from the Father. Just like physical conception occurs during sexual intimacy, spiritual conception occurs in/from the place of intimacy with God.

At that point, He usually drops (a) seed(s) in you. It might be an idea to execute or pray about, a thought to pray for or reach out to someone, or an urgency to preach the Word.

That seed is to be nurtured and protected through prayer and action. If not, it will die.

How Do You Know You Are Spiritually Pregnant?
(1) You have an idea or thought that doesn’t leave – and it grows stronger the more time you spend with God.
(2) You have a strong desire to pray – which is also called a burden.
Many times, when you feel in a limbo, out-of-sorts, listless, irritable, or when something/someone seems to be constantly on your heart – and you feel like praying/or prayer keeps coming to your mind/or, even if you don’t feel like it, you keep hearing “pray” from various sources – you are being called into the secret place.

Unfortunately, many people don’t recognise they are carrying pregnancies or burdens. When their spirit-man begins to react to the pregnancy within – calling for prayer or time with God – they try to stifle it or distract it with social media, food, entertainment, conversation or people.
In the end, they lose the pregnancy.

How Do You Know You Have Lost a Spiritual Pregnancy?
(1) When the burning desire to execute it is no longer there – even though it is mentally in your head or physically on paper.
(2) When the urgency to pray is gone – and not because you’ve won the victory.
(3) When the sense of anticipation/expectation is gone.

How Do You Protect Your Spiritual Pregnancies?
(1) Pray. Pray. Pray.
The easiest way to kill anything is in seed form. The next easiest way is at the period of birthing.
Cover your spiritual pregnancies with prayer. Pray at conception. Pray throughout the process. Pray through until they are birthed. (Isaiah 66:9)
Even after you have birthed them, pray they will come into full manifestation as God intended – and keep asking Him for mercy and grace.

(2) Feed Your Babies Constantly.
What you don’t feed, dies.
Give them The Word. Meditation. Images. The right people. Messages. Confessions. Constantly. Non-stop – until they come forth.

(3) Guard Your Environment.
In a moment of carelessness, one wrong word from the wrong person can abort your pregnancy. The season calls for you to be extremely selective about your associations, what you look at, what you listen to – and what you say. Protect your babies.

(4) Act Promptly.
Ride on the urgency of the Spirit. When He says, “Pray NOW, “Call NOW”, “Give NOW”, “Go NOW” – just obey. When that happens, something is about to be birthed at that point. It might be:

  • The salvation of a long prayed-for soul;
  • Tilting the scales in unseen spiritual warfare;
  • Bringing about the physical manifestation of a desired miracle;
  • Deliverance for someone from danger (The Ride by Dallas Jenkins, ‘The Chosen’ producer, is a short and beautiful example.)

Like physical pregnancies, spiritual burdens are time-bound. Whenever you sense that nudge, just obey – at that time.

Two examples:
(i) A minister was talking about how another minister died prematurely. He said he had had the nudge to pray for and reach out to him, but didn’t. Yes, he prayed – but not as the burden demanded.
After the minister died, he met his son and apologized to him – telling him of his experience.
The son replied that about thirteen (or seventeen ministers) had told him the same thing…
Thirteen (or seventeen) ministers had ignored the nudging of the Lord!
It’s too painful to contemplate.

(ii) I remember a season, years ago, when I was spending a lot of time with the Lord. One day, I went to the hospital for a check-up, and I ‘ran into’ someone I didn’t expect to see. Her brother was ill and she had been with him for some days. I encouraged her, and went on my way.
When I was done with my own check-up, I felt it strongly in my Spirit to go and pray for the brother – and lay hands on him.
But I didn’t.
A few weeks later, someone who knew her came to visit, and I asked – and he told me her brother had died in the hospital.

Immediately, I knew that if I had obeyed the Lord, he would have lived. I just knew it.

Once, I got some news and I was telling God with tears and a lot of pain, “I can’t imagine losing my child. I just can’t!”

And I heard the Lord clearly reply, “Deborah, how many children have I lost – through you?”

It hit me. Hard.
I remembered all the times I didn’t speak, or reach out, or go with a prompting because I didn’t want to seem too ‘spiritual’ – or I was too conscious of what people would say.

The way He said it…
Writing it even now brings tears to my eyes.

So, What Do You Do When You Lose a Spiritual Pregnancy?
(1) Ask God for mercy and genuinely repent. A lost pregnancy is a waste of the Father’s resources – and if a soul was lost…
(2) Go back into the secret place. Spend quality and intimate time with God until you conceive again – or until He resurrects the dead baby/dream/idea in your womb.
(3) Obey His instructions promptly.
(4) This time, with His help, keep the baby(ies).

(Additional resources by Lawrence Oyor.)


  1. Deborah Kuhlman says:

    This is so me Lord.

    1. Debby Osa says:

      …and I say “Amen!.” Thank you for reading 🙂

  2. Hmm.. I can relate too.. I’ve lost many,some were even intentional just because I felt unworthy.. God have mercy.. Lord I surrender

    1. Debby Osa says:

      That’s just it, Sis. We surrender…

  3. susanhomeschooling says:

    Wow, I never thought of it this way…

    1. Debby Osa says:

      There’s always a fresh perspective, Susan 🙂 Thank you for reading xx

  4. KellyRBaker says:

    This is powerful! I can’t tell you how many dreams I’ve had where I’ve neglected to take care of the baby/feed it, etc. And after praying over it, God reveals that it’s related to that ministry burden that I’ve not done what I needed to do. There’s one in particular. It’s big, so I put it off all the time, but the urgency remains. I’ve got more praying to do, but thanks for this encouragement!

    1. Debby Osa says:

      You are most welcome, Kelly!

  5. Fortune Jacob says:

    This post brings back memories.
    Lord, please forgive my negligence

    1. Debby Osa says:

      Amen, Sis… He’s merciful 🙂

  6. I can sadly relate. May God help us

    1. Amen. Same here sis,I can sadly relate.. I can’t count how many I’ve lost, honestly..some were even intentional,just before I felt unworthy.. Lord have mercy.. I surrender Totally! Thank you sis Debby!!

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